Next we can figure out how our
thoughts created our coping skills.
We all learn our coping skills, otherwise known as tools, in our families. You learned your tools from your parents, who learned their tools from their parents, and so on, who probably had it worse than you to treat you the way they did. Our parents model to us how to express emotions. There is no perfect parent. We are not blaming parents, only trying to help you understand where you developed your coping skills. We can have both positive and negative coping skills. Positive coping skills (ex. exercise, socializing, etc.) usually make us feel better and negative ones (ex. drugs, eating badly, cheating, etc.) make us feel worse. When it comes to your coping skills, you have probably been reacting this way for most of your life. So it won’t be a snap of your fingers to change your reaction. It takes time and a willingness to want to move forward.
Did you know that between the ages of three and six our brains are being mapped into pathways we will use for the rest of our lives? No worries, we can change those pathways with a little work. Okay maybe more than a little but it is so worth it.
Did you know that between the ages of three and six our brains are being mapped into pathways we will use for the rest of our lives? No worries, we can change those pathways with a little work. Okay maybe more than a little but it is so worth it.